So if someone comes to you unhappy because you didn't do something their way, who is the bad guy? Is it you, or the other person? I suppose this is the greatest debate of mankind.
So if someone tells you every time you do something wrong (wrong in their opinion), and tells you how to do it the right way, is it wrong to feel about an inch high? Or should you do what they want you to do and keep your mouth shut every time this happens (even if it happens a lot)? I suppose if I had the answer to this I'd be richer than Dr. Phil.
So if someone tells you every time you do something wrong (in their opinion), and you decide you've had enough and finally say something like "please stop nagging me," does that make you the bad guy? I supposed this is another one of those life questions no one knows the answer to, except the accuser.
So if someone gets angry and terrifyingly mad at you because you left popcorn kernels on the carpet, and you try to defend yourself, saying something like "I got called stat to the emergency room." A fight then ensues. Who started the fight. Yeah! This is one of those "what came first, the chicken or the egg" type questions.
Humility, I believe, is a good, is a good virtue to have. However, you can only be humble for so long. When the humble gets tired of someone else not being happy about the way he makes his way through life, it's tough to be so humble.
The squeaky wheel, they say, always gets the Greece, except when that person is the normally humble person. Take a choleric, melancholy personality for example. This person is very picky and wants things done a specific way. Put this person in the same room as the peaceful phlegmatic person who kicks back and enjoys life. Yes, you can see the dilemma.
Now surely the two personalities need each other too. Put two peaceful phlegmatic together and nothing will ever get done, or so thinks the choleric melancholy person, who has to have everything done his way. To the phlegmatic, the melancholy choleric seems like a very miserable person who is never happy with anything. The peaceful phlegmatic is always happy, so long as his opposite personality isn't what he refers to as "nagging."
So who is right and who is wrong? This author does not have the answers. I'm sure you could take one side or the other. If you are the person who is the bossy person, chances are you don't even know you're doing it.