This is one of the oldest laws in the books, yet most people don't know about it. I listen all the time to some of my coworkers, as I wrote here, complain that the bosses don't choose them to go to the NBRC conference to represent our hospital, or to orientate the new workers or students.
They complain that they don't get what they want. Yet they never give. They rarely go out of their way to help out our boss. When the boss calls them to come to work a couple hours early, they ignore the phone. When they are asked to pick up a day here or there, they gripe and groan.
When someone makes a mistake, instead of fixing the mistake and being a good team mate, they complain and make matters worse. They are the complainers of the RT Cave. They complain about way to much. Yet when it comes to giving, they only give when they get what they want.
The law of reciprocation works just the opposite. This law says that you give all day. You go out of your way to say thank you. Instead of complaining about the RT boss, you find a way to praise your boss. The rewards, the getting, comes almost right away.
Your boss loves you all the more. Instead of ignoring the phone calls, you come into work early, and you change shifts even when it might be a little inconvenient for you. You do it to make the bosses job easier. You give, and you get back twice as much as you give. You get back triple what you give.
The law of reciprocation is missing in many of our lives. Yet it shouldn't be because it works. Too many people want to get before they give. My coworker just today said to me, "If I don't get to orientate the new girl I'm never speaking to our boss again." Well, if that's your attitude, I thought, you'll never get anything.
In the long run, her formula never works. The me first formula never works. Complaining never works. As we've stated before, complaining says more about you than the person you're complaining about.
It's a fundamental truth that if you give of yourself you will get back double, triple and even 10 times what you give. You'll be appreciated more. The payoff is almost automatic. A think a good example is being a parent. Everyone knows it's hard work, but the rewards in the end are phenomenal.
Your reward, what you get, comes in many forms:
So instead of being mad at me for getting to do things because the boss likes me better, don't be mad at me, be mad at yourself for not following this law. Don't be mad at the boss for not choosing you, be mad at yourself.
The best way to start following this law is simply to make a promise to yourself that you will go out of your way to compliment the people in your life. Go out of your way to tell the person who's been working hard to lose weight that she looks great. Go out of your way to tell your boss she's doing a great job.
Go out of your way to do something positive, and you'll get positive rewards in return. The simple smile you get back, the kind words, should be reward enough. Yet the return can be even greater than that: you'll be much more respected than you are now, and much more respected than others around you.